Monday, November 28, 2016

Men Have Feelings Too - The Two Classic Games

Since the beginning of time, two classic games have constantly influenced the lives of many. They are played so often that many of us have willingly accepted them as our default setting. Without question, they have destroyed and plagued numerous relationships, annihilated trust, and tormented ALL of their victims. As a result, many of us live with permanent internal scars, which were caused by poisonous fragments that hid within the recesses of our hearts.

Do you know the two classic games I'm referencing? Sure, you do; you instinctively play them all of the time. For now, I'll only introduce them. Later on, we'll discuss their rules and implications.

Game 1 - "Guess Who"

"Guess Who" A.K.A. "The Manipulation Game" is played every day. This game involves the "Art of Manipulation" through the medium of deception to control and subdue its opposition. Many of us have renamed this game as "GAME."

Game 2 - "The Blame Game"

"The Blame Game" is also played every day. This game deceitfully forces others to take liability and responsibility for our shortcomings by ascribing our perceived crime to them or another object.


Until next time...

Walter Hunter
walter@menhavefeelingstoo.com
https://menhavefeelingstoo.com


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Tuesday, November 15, 2016

Men Have Feelings Too - The Enemy In-A-Me

Who's your worst enemy? Could it be the guy you thought was your friend prior to him betraying you? Could it be your "Ex" after you discovered that she cheated, turned your children against you, and then had you falsely arrested? Could it be the guy who was secretly pursuing your woman, disrespecting your home, or stealing money from you? Could it be the woman that you thought was the ONE until she cleaned out your bank account? Although all of these situations are deal breakers in their own right, none of them compare to your greatest enemy. Despite popular opinion, YOU are your OWN worst ENEMY.

Take into account how many times you've allowed the FEAR of failure, the unknown, and your past to derail you or cloud your judgments. Also, take into account how many times you've allowed your destructive habits, lustful appetites, or immediate gratification to rule YOU. Consider how many times you've violated your own conscience, will, standards, or morals. Also, consider how many times you've lied to yourself, you were deceived by your feelings, or you were misled by your OWN heart after you decided to follow it. Certainly, I know that you can find millions of excuses to justify your thoughts and behaviors; however, if you'll carefully examine each of your shortcomings, you'll discover that YOU'RE the common denominator!

I know that many of you may not want to address these real to life issues. You would rather hide behind your perceived strengths, accolades, professions, or other superficial veneers. The truth of the matter is this, READY or NOT, here it comes.


Until next time...

Walter Hunter
walter@menhavefeelingstoo.com
https://menhavefeelingstoo.com


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Monday, November 7, 2016

Men Have Feelings Too - Males vs. Men

Apparently, over the years, there has been some type of confusion as it relates to two terms that many of US believe are synonymous. Male vs. man are the two words that I am referencing. What is a male? What is a man? Is there a difference? If so, could one of you be so nice as to explain the difference? If there isn't a difference then why do many say some of the following statements?

1. Quite often a male will say to another male, "You're the man!" (Instead of, you're the male?) What does "you're the man" truly mean or imply?

2. Quite often a woman will say to a male, "You're not a real man? A real man does 'this' or a real man does 'that.'" What do her statements imply? Better yet, what could her statements possibly mean?

I know this may seem to be an elementary topic but if you really knew the ramifications of this then you wouldn't be so hasty to dismiss this discussion. Honestly, this will become a very sensitive matter once we begin to truthfully and objectively dissect it. Just to stir the pot in advance, let me say this. Every man is a male, but not every male is a man.


Until next time...

Walter Hunter
walter@menhavefeelingstoo.com
https://menhavefeelingstoo.com


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Thursday, November 3, 2016

Men Have Feelings Too - Setting Ground Rules

To be successful at anything, you must set ground rules, boundaries, and rules of engagement. All of these foundational blocks are necessary components that must be established and maintained. Well, this blog is no different. Listen up!
  1. Although the intended audience of my book is men, this blog is unisex. Which means, ALL correspondence is welcomed here (male or female). Feel free to get involved.    
  2. Each blog will be written as if men are my intended audience unless specified. 
  3. This is an interactive blog. I welcome and encourage differences of opinion. If you leave a comment, ask a question, or give your feedback, please be respectfully and allow for differences of opinion. Please, no profanity. Let's behave like mature adults. If for some reason you can't tolerate my viewpoint or someone else's comments, feedback, or opinions in a respectfully manner, then this blog may not be for you. 
  4. For the most part, this will be a weekly blog. There are two reasons for this. One, I want to give you ample time to reflect upon each week's topic because some of them will be difficult to discuss due to sensitive content. Two, I want to encourage dialogue. Sometimes talking about an issue helps those who maybe dealing with it to see it differently; thereby, increasing their ability to cope.  
  5. This blog will address issues that many won't truthfully discuss. Topics include manhood, fatherhood, roles and responsibilities, relationships (especially, interpersonal ones), abuse, addictions, matters of the heart, etc. Since most of US wear superficial masks in our day to day lives, we have become quite comfortable with lying to ourselves. Conversely, TRUTH will expose our vulnerable hearts causing us to reflect upon our hidden motives. This alone makes this blog unique.
  6. If you have any additional topic suggestions, please send me an email.

Until next time...

Written by Walter Hunter
walter@menhavefeelingstoo.com


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