Men Have Feelings Too - "Do I Look Fat in this Dress?"

The Shhhh Series - Part 2 - "Do I Look Fat in this Dress?"

"Honey, do I look fat in this dress?"

"Here we go again." "I'm sick and tired of biting my tongue every time you ask me this stupid question." "Why do you continue to ask me something that you already know?" "Yes, you look fat in my once favorite dress!" "In fact, I can't stand the way you look in it." "Just the thought of you wearing it makes me sick to my stomach." "My mouth is rapidly filling with vomit right now; Yuk...this taste is disguising...swallow it, swallow it." "It should be against the law for me to be forced to look at you in this condition." "I desperately want to tell you the truth without hurting your feelings, so to protect them, I'm compelled to lie to you about what I really see and think." "Apparently, you're too slow to comprehend the obvious hints I keep giving you?" "I've bought a treadmill, gym memberships, healthier food choices, and encouraged you to work out but all of these methods have been rejected." "What more do you want me to do?" "Let's be realistic, I'm not sexually attracted to you anymore." "I haven't willingly touched you in months." "Truthfully, I don't want to touch you at all but since we're married, we both have needs, and I don't want you to accuse me of cheating, I guess I'll just swallow my pride and take one for the team every now and then." "I've discovered that watching porn before coming to bed really helps." "Why can't you look like Ms. Thang at the gym or that sexy admin assistant on the second floor at the job?" "Those goddesses are fine as wine." "Every time I smell their perfume or see them, I'm immediately aroused." "Then, I come home, see you, and my arousal is quickly extinguished." "Who am I kidding?" "You'll never be as fine as those ladies because you value food more than your appearance."

"Honey, did you hear me?" "As you can see, I'm wearing your favorite dress." "The one you told me you love to see me in." "Tell me the truth, do I look fat in this dress?"

"Huh?" "Baby, I sincerely apologize for not responding sooner." "I had a few things on my mind." "Yes, you look amazing in my favorite dress!"

Shhhhh......

Until next time...

Walter Hunter
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Men Have Feelings Too - What is the Definition of Father?

What is the definition of father? Although this seems like a simple question, it's far from that. Believe it or not, there are several children who physically reside with a man they call 'father' however, he's routinely detached when it comes to spending time with, nurturing, or training them. His job, habits, addictions, and him trying to keep up with his love and social life blinds him from the reality of his fatherly responsibilities. He would rather go drink with the fellas, work long hours, or entertain his new boo versus spending quality time with his children. If you let him tell it, he's the best father ever. Oh yes, he has all his spectators fooled. His friends, coworkers, and social buddies see him as being hardworking and devoted, but his family, namely his children, will tell you a much different story. To them, they're invisible. Although they inwardly crave his attention, often times they simply become the scapegoats for his frustrations and anger. If they would dare to say, "Daddy, could you spend some time with me?", they would be abruptly greeted with every excuse under the sun or their quality time with him will be cut short by something else more important. Now tell me, can this guy honorably uphold the title of father or is he an imposter?

Until next time...

Walter Hunter
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Men Have Feelings Too - What does molested mean?

The Shhhh Series - Part 1 - "What does molested mean?"

What does 'molested' mean? According to Merriam Webster, it has two meanings. First, it means to annoy, disturb, or persecute especially with hostile intent or injurious effect. Secondly, it means to make annoying sexual advances to; especially: to force physical and usually sexual contact on. Now that we have established our parameters, let's take our first glimpse into the Shhh series. Men Have Feelings Too willingly removes the taboo blinders that many of us pridefully wear, and reveals a door into the molestation trap.

The conversation below accurately describes this predator's slick-talking playbook. Their ultimate goal is power. To gain it, they'll use the deceptive masks of trust, compassion, the victim's guilt, innocence, and vulnerability, and physical/emotional/psychological (PEP) reinforcement to outwit their unsuspecting victims for their selfish benefit. Typically, the victim is the one who permanently bears these PEP scars. Before we begin this dialogue, let me reveal a few likely suspects: family members, authority or religious figures, or someone the victim naturally likes, loves, or respects.

"You know that I love you, don't you?" "Just touch it." "Don't be afraid." "I'm not going to hurt you." "Trust me, OK?" "From the first time I saw you, I knew you were special." "You know that you're special right?" "OK, OK, I'll stop but before I do, can I ask you something?" "Do you love me?" "You do?" "Well, I love you too." "I promise I won't hurt you." "How does that feel?" "See, I told you that I wouldn't hurt you." "Relax!..Relax!" "If you would just relax, it won't hurt as much." "See, I told you everything will be OK." "I love you...OK?" "See, you're starting to like it." "How does it feel now?" "Don't it feel good?" "I love this and I love you." "This will be our little secret." "If you will just keep this between us, I will protect you and give you whatever you want." "Shhh, don't tell nobody."

Until next time... 

Walter Hunter
walter@menhavefeelingstoo.com
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Men Have Feelings Too - Monkey See, Monkey Do

Way too often, men take for granted their role as a father. Just so you know, being a father is a PRIVILEGE not a RIGHT; therefore, fatherhood comes at a very high price, a price that most of us are not willing to pay in full. As long as things are good, then we're good but when things aren't so good, many of us choose to run from our responsibility.

Some fathers are the first ones to proclaim that a woman doesn't know the proper way or is incapable of raising a son. The question I want to know is "Do you know the proper way?" Fatherhood doesn't come with a manual nor tutorial, which means that everything we've learned regarding our ever-evolving profession have came by either trial and error or by observation and implementation. Our children aren't any different. In other words, "monkey see, monkey do." Although our words have power, nothing speaks louder and more impactful to them than our daily lifestyles. I encourage you to constantly take inventory of your words, actions, habits, and addictions.

 Until next time...

Walter Hunter
walter@menhavefeelingstoo.com
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