Men Have Feelings Too - "Do I Look Fat in this Dress?"

The Shhhh Series - Part 2 - "Do I Look Fat in this Dress?"

"Honey, do I look fat in this dress?"

"Here we go again." "I'm sick and tired of biting my tongue every time you ask me this stupid question." "Why do you continue to ask me something that you already know?" "Yes, you look fat in my once favorite dress!" "In fact, I can't stand the way you look in it." "Just the thought of you wearing it makes me sick to my stomach." "My mouth is rapidly filling with vomit right now; Yuk...this taste is disguising...swallow it, swallow it." "It should be against the law for me to be forced to look at you in this condition." "I desperately want to tell you the truth without hurting your feelings, so to protect them, I'm compelled to lie to you about what I really see and think." "Apparently, you're too slow to comprehend the obvious hints I keep giving you?" "I've bought a treadmill, gym memberships, healthier food choices, and encouraged you to work out but all of these methods have been rejected." "What more do you want me to do?" "Let's be realistic, I'm not sexually attracted to you anymore." "I haven't willingly touched you in months." "Truthfully, I don't want to touch you at all but since we're married, we both have needs, and I don't want you to accuse me of cheating, I guess I'll just swallow my pride and take one for the team every now and then." "I've discovered that watching porn before coming to bed really helps." "Why can't you look like Ms. Thang at the gym or that sexy admin assistant on the second floor at the job?" "Those goddesses are fine as wine." "Every time I smell their perfume or see them, I'm immediately aroused." "Then, I come home, see you, and my arousal is quickly extinguished." "Who am I kidding?" "You'll never be as fine as those ladies because you value food more than your appearance."

"Honey, did you hear me?" "As you can see, I'm wearing your favorite dress." "The one you told me you love to see me in." "Tell me the truth, do I look fat in this dress?"

"Huh?" "Baby, I sincerely apologize for not responding sooner." "I had a few things on my mind." "Yes, you look amazing in my favorite dress!"

Shhhhh......

Until next time...

Walter Hunter
walter@menhavefeelingstoo.com
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Men Have Feelings Too - The Lack of Communication in a Relationship Causes Problems

Most people will mention it but a greater number of them truly underestimate the reality that the lack of communication in a relationship causes major problems. Quite frankly, most relationships fail because the people involved in them aren't adequately communicating. I'm not speaking about standard items like "What's for dinner?", "Does this shirt match these pants?", or "Did you pay the power bill?" but I'm referring to the intimate issues of the heart that are extremely important to each specific individual. More often than not, these sore spots, insecurities, and hot buttons are usually suppressed because they're typically accompanied by feelings of fear, guilt, remorse, and embarrassment. If they're ever mentioned at all, the person expressing them generally walks away feeling misunderstood, disregarded, or like they wasted their time expressing what was near and dear to their heart. Over time, these small foxes will undermine the relationship because one or both parties feel trapped in a situation where they don't feel truly loved, valued, or respected.

Until next time...

Walter Hunter
walter@menhavefeelingstoo.com
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Men Have Feelings Too - Public Superheros Private Failures

This morning I began a conversation with a man by asking him the following. "What is the greatest challenge in your marriage?" He responded, "Trying to keep proper balance in my home." I then asked, "What do you mean?" He went on to say, "Trying to keep the proper balance between work and home. I spent many years serving this country as a U.S. Marine. Among my guys, I was well respected. They had my back and I had theirs. It was nothing to constantly devote 14 hours of my day leading them, training them, and looking after their personal needs. However, when I went home after my long day, my family didn't receive the same enthusiasm. They only got what I had left...if that. If they had a roof over their heads, food to eat, clothes to wear, and they were in 'good' health then my home life was considered good." As this conversation continued, he further explained how his military lifestyle and deployments strained his marriage and adversely affected his relationship with his children. After many unproductive arguments with his wife, repeated threats of divorce, and various disrespectful encounters with his children, he finally came to grips with this very stressful social imbalance.

Many people, especially men, simultaneously live as public superheros and private failures. To the outside world, they are great men, leaders, and the movers and shakers of our society. Privately or within their homes, they are null and void, absent, distant, and unapproachable. Most of their home life is spent arguing with their wives, fighting against their wayward, undisciplined children, and consuming drugs and alcohol in a desperate effort to escape these pressures. To further cope with the social imbalances within their households, many have found justification outside: like in the strip clubs, other social organizations where acceptance is the primary affirmation, or within the bed of "another" who willingly consoles them. Inwardly they know their condition is terminal but as long as they can keep their private life private, they'll continue to fool the masses by deceitfully pretending everything is great at home. Just because many of us live our lives this way, doesn't mean that it's right.

Until next time...

Walter Hunter
walter@menhavefeelingstoo.com
https://menhavefeelingstoo.com


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