Men Have Feelings Too - Help Me to Understand

Although I know this topic is considered forbidden and controversial, we're going to discuss it anyway. Can anyone help me to understand the following scenarios? If a woman prefers other women, why does she believe that she must mimic a man's appearance and mannerisms to attract those women? Likewise, if a man prefers other men, why does he believe that he must mimic a woman's appearance and mannerisms to attract those men? Why can't that individual be a feminine female who prefers women or a masculine male who prefers men without compromising their masculinity or femininity? It seems to me that this individual is confused and is trying to convince themselves and others that they actually are the gender they're desperately hoping to identify with.

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Walter Hunter
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Men Have Feelings Too - What's Your Purpose?

By the show of hands, can anyone tell me their purpose? Not the purpose you have chosen for yourself based upon your own natural talents and abilities or the one that was given to you by someone else. What I'm getting at is the main reason why you were born. If you think for one second that you just showed up on this planet by happenstance, then you're deceived and misguided. Frankly, if you don't know the reason(s) for your existence then this one thing is true, YOU'RE wasting valuable time aimlessly chasing an imaginary finish line. How miserable is that? So, you want me to believe that you enjoy constantly traveling without ever arriving at a final destination? Come on, even I know that you don't truly believe that bologna. If chasing money, material possessions, and women are the only pursuits any man can ultimately achieve then why aren't we satisfied when we final obtain them?  

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Walter Hunter
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Men Have Feelings Too - Why Do Married Men Cheat? Part 2

On January 18, 2017, the "Why do married men cheat" series officially launched. Today, part two will be brought to you without delay. Unresolved lust is another reason why married men cheat. This deceitful adversary hides within the heart, plagues the mind, and will sabotage any relationship if it isn't aggressively apprehended. Men, especially married men, often underestimate the power of lust and its associated desires. Just so you know, lust is defined as an uncontrolled sexual desire or appetite. The KEY word that we will be focusing upon is 'uncontrolled.'

Every day, men are bombarded with sexual content. Women dressing provocatively on the street or in the marketplace, the music videos we all love to watch, and the pornographic material that most of us crave are all examples of this phenomenon. Believe it or not, each one of these examples constantly feeds our appetites for more. If these sources aren't enough to tip our lustful scales towards compromise, allow me to add a few more less obvious triggers to this conversation.

When any man has had any sexual experiences prior to him getting married, occasionally, these past experiences will attempt to creep back into his life. This invasion is often unannounced and under certain circumstances, his old flame(s) will reappear too. Talk about unfair, how is a man supposed to stay faithful to his wife when his ex-lover(s) did things to his body that his wife won't even attempt. Not to mention, what if he's secretly fantasizing about a blast from his past while he's preparing for sex with his wife. It's situations like these that periodically compete with every ounce of faithfulness within his body. Let me say this, the more sexual experiences a man has had will ultimately determine the amount of difficulty he must endure regarding his variability to unresolved lust. 

Let me take this conversation up one more level. One practical way a married man tries to logically cope with this lustful imbalance is by having a consistent "love-life" with his wife. In the husband's defense, God Almighty originally designed marriage as a means for him and his wife to mutually meet one another's sexual needs. Therefore, to him, his wife represents his ONLY acceptable outlet for this type of expression. In the wife's defense, why should she be required to subject herself to his uncontrollable desires given that they were essentially created by someone else other than herself? Therefore, to her, his needs seem to be a never-ending chore. Now, here comes the juicy part. Over the course of time, what do you think will happen within his heart and mind if his wife constantly refuses to humble herself to meet his sexual needs? It's at this pivotal point, he's left with the following options: One, masturbate; two, engage in another activity that he prayerfully hopes will temporarily take his mind off his apparent need; three, cross the line of fidelity. Most, if not all the time, options one and three are realistic byproducts of an intermittent "love life" with his wife and unresolved lust.

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Walter Hunter
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Men Have Feelings Too - What is the Purpose of a Woman?

"What's the purpose of a woman?" Why were women created in the first place?" If you were to ask the average man this question, most of them will say that women were created solely for a man's sexual pleasure. Now, I'll agree that one part of their purpose is to assist us with procreation; however, this can't be the sum of who she is. You mean to tell me this extremely creative, detail oriented, nurturing helper is only good for one thing? If you are a man and you wholeheartedly believe that sex is the only reason for a woman's existence, then you are exceedingly misinformed. One of the reasons why women are abused, disregarded, and endangered is because men at large don't know nor do they understand her worth, importance, or purpose. Unfortunately, the vast majority of women don't know this information either. That's why many women always seem to sell themselves short. Anytime you don't know the specific purpose of something, YOU WILL ABUSE IT! If you hang around here from time to time, I'll educate you on who she is, her purpose, and why she's more valuable that pure gold.    

Until next time...

Walter Hunter
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Men Have Feelings Too - I Don't Understand Her

"I don't understand her" is one of the greatest silent cries that most men face. Generally, this simple yet profound statement surfaces after an intense argument or any other unproductive conversation with your wife, fiancé, girlfriend, or side chick. Any man who has ever thought or uttered these words indelibly knows the gut-wrenching frustration, anger, and hopelessness one feels surrounding this confession. What's even worst is feeling this exact way without having a healthy outlet to defuse it. Most of the time, the standard prescription for this type of situation is immediate silence and distance, demonstrating a harsh demeanor, and turning to one of our favorite "habits" to "gather ourselves." Although most of us know this customary routine won't resolve our current issue(s) with her, at least it provides a temporal safe haven for reflection.

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Walter Hunter
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Men Have Feelings Too - Who's Your Daddy?

Who's your daddy? Quite often this humorous question is casually tossed around in a joking manner, especially when it's used as a sexual undertone. The bitter reality of the matter is this harsh question isn't comical at all. There are countless fatherless victims who wake up every single day with the frightening anxiety, unquenchable pain, and overwhelming disparity of not knowing who their daddy is. Although it's unimaginable to perceive, there are many individuals who couldn't pick their father out of a line up if their lives depended upon it. How heartbreaking is this? For the brave few who decide to embark upon this demoralizing quest for closure, they will soon meet one of these unpleasant realities: a twisted trail of lies, many unanswered questions, and their hearts filled with anger all because the deceit, betrayal, and bitterness they'll discover along the way will be exceedingly more than what they bargained for. Make no mistake about it, none of these victims willingly chose this path of indifference on their own. In fact, they were abandoned, left for dead, and forced to figure out the inner workings of this extremely cold world all by themselves. What's even worse is many of these broken individuals remain damaged, then they’ll give birth to another generation thus perpetuating this vicious cycle.

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Walter Hunter
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Men Have Feelings Too - "Just Being A Man"

"He's just being a man." How often have we heard this pathetic statement? Typically, this famous catch phrase surfaces after some man has been caught up in a compromising situation, especially one that involves a woman. Immediately following any disgraceful allegations of infidelity or the truth surrounding his indiscretions come to the light, someone will utter, "he's just being a man." What is this specific declaration really conveying or targeting? Are we condoning his behavior or simply dismissing it? Honestly, this statement seems to suggest that all men will cheat at some point. Is there any truth to support this claim?

I'm not naive to believe that a man will exercise sound judgement if sex is assumed or promised. Typically, this type of situation doesn't favor the man. Rarely, do we survive this test. Regardless of how you slice it, he didn't act alone. If the other person involved was deceived then "yes" the cheater deserves 100% of the blame; however, if the other person knew this man was acting inappropriately yet they willingly encouraged him, then why do we highlight his actions and excuse theirs. If his infidelity involves a woman then I've never heard anyone say, "She's just being a woman."

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Walter Hunter
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Men Have Feelings Too - Why Do Married Men Cheat? Part 1

For eons, one question has always risen to the top...why do married men cheat? This sensitive topic has been repeatedly debated among the sexes, within our societies, cultures, and our respective media outlets. However, most of those debates only seem to cover the surface issues; not the heart where those decisions are truly made. This is the reason why Men Have Feelings Too has decided to raise the bar by going where most other sources would not dare go.

For starters, let's set some necessary groundwork before I present reason one. Firstly, as we examine this series of reasons, I want you to be mindful that none of them are presented in any particular order. Second, no reason is more important than the other. Third, it could be that more than one reason caused him to step out of the protective safeguards, which his marriage afforded him. Lastly, none of these reasons are given to glorify, encourage, make excuses for, or condone infidelity or divorce. Honestly, the byproducts of infidelity and divorce are gruesome, embarrassing, and many innocent bystanders and feeders from those relationships, also bare physiological and emotional bruises, just like the parties involved. Having said that, let's begin.

Are you ready? A lack of appreciation at home is one of the main reasons why married men cheat. For a man, feeling appreciated represents a vital building block that his ego or manhood is based upon. If this critical support is weakened or destroyed, it's only a matter of time before he finds an environment where that necessary support will be repaired or replaced. Initially, this place may not be within the arms of another woman; however, it might be on his job, within his social organizations, among his friends, or within his hobbies or toys. If his wife fails to see these warning signs and continues to ignore THIS need, sooner than later, she will learn that he would rather be "there" than for him to be at home.

What his wife doesn't understand is he feels demoralized and apathetic within his current domain. This imbalance will cause more arguments, periods of isolation, and him crowding his schedule with other activities that he believes will build him up not tear him down. Why? Every man NEEDS acceptance, encouraging words, and acts of appreciation from his wife. Words like "Thank you", "I love you", "I appreciate you", "I need you" does wonders for him in ways she can't even imagine. If she follows up those words with thoughtful actions like meaningful touches, running him a warm bath, fixing his dinner, putting on his "favorite" outfit, and taking the lead when it comes to his physical needs then she creates a comfortable oasis of love, support, emotional peace, and physical appeal. Collectively, these things build him up.

No man wants to work all day, get beat up in the workplace, then come home to a dirty house. Nor does he want to come home to a wife that constantly dresses like a tomboy or one that unrelentingly nags him about what he hasn't done, needs to do, or how much she's dissatisfied with him. Believe me, these types of things already weigh heavily upon the mind of a responsible man so those additional stresses only make matters worse. Not to mention, the other women in the work/market place that persistently compliment him, flirt with him, make sexual remarks, or suggest how they can make life better for him. If they tickle his ear just enough, he'll have to decide whether he'll go home where he's not being appreciated or go to a place where there's a realistic promise of appreciation and gratification. I will tell you this, the environment that strokes his ego the most will be where he will spend the majority of his time. The same door that his wife haphazardly leaves open WILL be the same one that the mistress will enter. The latter one knows that if she consistently strokes his fragile ego, gives him that extra attention, and shows him that missing appreciation, eventually, this man staving from appreciation will eat. Although he knows its wrong, he'll find justification within himself for secretly eating there with this resolve, "Since my wife doesn't appreciate me, at least someone does."

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Walter Hunter
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Men Have Feelings Too - Married Men and Infidelity

Typically, married men don't walk into the marriage with cheating or divorce being options. If the opposite were true then why would he get married in the first place? He could easily keep playing the field as a 'garden tool', heart-breaker, and life wrecker because those unfortunate outcomes are expected from single, immature men. When a man finally matures, he begins to realize that life is short, it's precious, and there's more to it than a different woman every night. Whether he confesses it or not, that lifestyle gets old too after a certain point. So...what triggers a married man to turn back to the vomit he once left? What beckons him to return to the single life or roll the dice by living a double life?

Starting this month, Men Have Feelings Too will be exposing one reason per month. Our goal is to get to the heart of the matter, not just glorify the symptoms that most blogs and magazines do. Just to wet your whistle, let me say this...the physical act of cheating is the final manifestation of a simultaneous series of thoughts, conversations, and other actions that aided it. Men Have Feelings Too will reveal those parts of the series that most overlook. We will focus upon the inner workings of those outward manifestations.

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Walter Hunter
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Men Have Feelings Too - Why Are You Hiding?

Who are you? Why are you hiding? If you were to ask the average man about women, sports, or politics, he'll have plenty to talk about. In fact, he may never shut up! However, if you were to ask him about himself, typically, he'll be at a loss for words. Hear me...I'm not talking about what he does or who he knows, I'm referencing who he is, how he feels, or what he meditates upon. As long as his conversations remain general, he's an expert, a wealth of knowledge, or the most interesting man in the room but when things become personal, he'll clam up faster than the speed of light. What most of you are fail to disclose is what's really important to you. Why is that?

Mister, why do you hide within that shell? Who are you? Why do you always either, deflect the spotlight away from yourself or over inflate yourself larger than your contemporaries? What are you hiding? Why are you over compensating? Why are you afraid? If you say, "I'm not hiding anything" then you're lying. Although you may never admit it, every man has things that challenge him like insecurities, fears, and doubts. These types of things are common issues that ALL of US face. The problem is WE never discuss them. If you would only swallow your pride, open your mouth, and ask for help, you will discover a plethora of highly respected men struggling to figure things out, just like YOU.

Until next time...

Walter Hunter
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