Part 6 of the series "Why Do Married Men Cheat" resumes today. Since last month contained Father's Day, all Men Have Feelings Too blogs were dedicated to fatherhood. Now that we're back to regularly scheduled broadcasting, we won't delay any longer; especially for the dedicated fans who love this particular series. Before we reveal today's blog reason regarding men and cheating, let's recap.
1. January - A lack of appreciation
2. February - Unresolved lust
3. March - The lack of trust
4. April - Lack of sex or inconsistent sex life
5. May - Constant nagging/Complaining
The official part 6 launch party starts right now. Have you ever been in a relationship and you sensed things changing for the worst? I mean...you started to notice things that either you took for granted or love blinded your eyes from seeing them. Things like, you don't talk anymore or at least, not like you use to. Every time you attempt to have meaningful dialogue with the other individual, you're shut down by a series of short answers. Or you notice, you don't hang out as much. It seems like they would rather spend time with everyone besides you. Then you build up enough courage to confront the other individual and they insult your intelligence all the more by blowing you off. Their typical replies are, "What are you talking about?" "That's all in your mind." "I'm good. Nothing is bothering me." All of these are defense mechanisms to keep them from truly discussing what's really on their mind.
If this scenario represents your current state of affairs then allow me to let you in on a little secret. Unresolved conflict is another reason why married men cheat. Since men typically internalize their frustrations prior to communicating them, the potency of their expressions are often watered down to keep from hurting their wife's feelings, sounding harsh, or being discredited because what he really wanted to express might not be grammatically correct. These spoon fed conversations, instead of what he truly wanted to say regarding how he actually feels, causes him further sorrows because it greatly diminishes the impact of his words to kinder, more palatable expressions. His 'acceptable' utterances combined with the underlining dispute(s) will gradually undermine every fiber of the relationship causing both of you to eventually grow apart. This typically happens when one individual is too selfish to compromise for the sake of the entire relationship and the other party feels trapped in a losing situation. The trapped party bends, and bends, and bends trying to make things work until finally, they get sick and tired of constantly feeling unappreciated. At that point, they want nothing more than to obtain the appreciation they've been earnestly seeking but not receiving; even if, it's from another source. If both people aren't willing to compromise by esteeming the other person's needs above their own, then it's only a matter of time before time runs out on that relationship.
Until next time...
Walter Hunter
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https://menhavefeelingstoo.com
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Men Have Feelings Too - Why Do Married Men Cheat? Part 5
"When are you going to clean out that garage because I've been asking you about it for months?" "You never call me when you're at work?" "Why haven't you texted me today?" "Why didn't you like my comment or pic on Facebook?" "You never take me out anymore." "You don't spend enough time with me." "Is there someone else because you've changed?" If you've ever heard this series of persistent questions or complaints from your wife, or another series like it, then constant nagging has to be another reason why married men cheat.
Typically, men are logical thinkers who desire peace within their home. No man wants to work all day in the hostile environments of temptation, backstabbing, unrealistic demands and deadlines, or the natural elements like extreme cold or heat then come home to what he believes to be more turmoil. From the moment he clocks out at work until he goes to bed, all he wants to do is detox from his long day of mental and physical assaults. Truth be told, all he wants now is food, maybe a drink, visual entertainment like the TV, and sex from his wife. This is how he plans to unwind from his stressful day.
On his way home or the very moment he enters his home, he's interrogated by his wife. Since she hasn't talked to him for much of her day, now she's ready to converse. Immediately, she hits him with an overwhelming grocery list of items that she wants to ask or get answered. To her it's mental bonding and simulation but to him, it's way to much. In his mind, he prefers for her to shut up but if he's planning on "getting some" later on that night, then he better at least make the conversation pleasant. At first, he's willing to entertain one or two of her questions with short direct answers but when her conversation quickly turns into criticisms and complaints, WATCH OUT! Man, did you see those boxing gloves just fly off? What started off as a friendly exhibition between them just turned into a slug fest. As their exchanges continue to intensify, all he can think about is a temporary escape back to the peaceful, stress free paradise that he envisioned. If this trend continues to persists over time, eventually, he'll get to the point of desiring a permanent escape.
Until next time...
Walter Hunter
walter@menhavefeelingstoo.com
https://menhavefeelingstoo.com
Feel free to leave comments or feedback.
Typically, men are logical thinkers who desire peace within their home. No man wants to work all day in the hostile environments of temptation, backstabbing, unrealistic demands and deadlines, or the natural elements like extreme cold or heat then come home to what he believes to be more turmoil. From the moment he clocks out at work until he goes to bed, all he wants to do is detox from his long day of mental and physical assaults. Truth be told, all he wants now is food, maybe a drink, visual entertainment like the TV, and sex from his wife. This is how he plans to unwind from his stressful day.
On his way home or the very moment he enters his home, he's interrogated by his wife. Since she hasn't talked to him for much of her day, now she's ready to converse. Immediately, she hits him with an overwhelming grocery list of items that she wants to ask or get answered. To her it's mental bonding and simulation but to him, it's way to much. In his mind, he prefers for her to shut up but if he's planning on "getting some" later on that night, then he better at least make the conversation pleasant. At first, he's willing to entertain one or two of her questions with short direct answers but when her conversation quickly turns into criticisms and complaints, WATCH OUT! Man, did you see those boxing gloves just fly off? What started off as a friendly exhibition between them just turned into a slug fest. As their exchanges continue to intensify, all he can think about is a temporary escape back to the peaceful, stress free paradise that he envisioned. If this trend continues to persists over time, eventually, he'll get to the point of desiring a permanent escape.
Until next time...
Walter Hunter
walter@menhavefeelingstoo.com
https://menhavefeelingstoo.com
Feel free to leave comments or feedback.
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