Monday, February 27, 2017

Men Have Feelings Too - Why Do Married Men Cheat? Part 2

On January 18, 2017, the "Why do married men cheat" series officially launched. Today, part two will be brought to you without delay. Unresolved lust is another reason why married men cheat. This deceitful adversary hides within the heart, plagues the mind, and will sabotage any relationship if it isn't aggressively apprehended. Men, especially married men, often underestimate the power of lust and its associated desires. Just so you know, lust is defined as an uncontrolled sexual desire or appetite. The KEY word that we will be focusing upon is 'uncontrolled.'

Every day, men are bombarded with sexual content. Women dressing provocatively on the street or in the marketplace, the music videos we all love to watch, and the pornographic material that most of us crave are all examples of this phenomenon. Believe it or not, each one of these examples constantly feeds our appetites for more. If these sources aren't enough to tip our lustful scales towards compromise, allow me to add a few more less obvious triggers to this conversation.

When any man has had any sexual experiences prior to him getting married, occasionally, these past experiences will attempt to creep back into his life. This invasion is often unannounced and under certain circumstances, his old flame(s) will reappear too. Talk about unfair, how is a man supposed to stay faithful to his wife when his ex-lover(s) did things to his body that his wife won't even attempt. Not to mention, what if he's secretly fantasizing about a blast from his past while he's preparing for sex with his wife. It's situations like these that periodically compete with every ounce of faithfulness within his body. Let me say this, the more sexual experiences a man has had will ultimately determine the amount of difficulty he must endure regarding his variability to unresolved lust. 

Let me take this conversation up one more level. One practical way a married man tries to logically cope with this lustful imbalance is by having a consistent "love-life" with his wife. In the husband's defense, God Almighty originally designed marriage as a means for him and his wife to mutually meet one another's sexual needs. Therefore, to him, his wife represents his ONLY acceptable outlet for this type of expression. In the wife's defense, why should she be required to subject herself to his uncontrollable desires given that they were essentially created by someone else other than herself? Therefore, to her, his needs seem to be a never-ending chore. Now, here comes the juicy part. Over the course of time, what do you think will happen within his heart and mind if his wife constantly refuses to humble herself to meet his sexual needs? It's at this pivotal point, he's left with the following options: One, masturbate; two, engage in another activity that he prayerfully hopes will temporarily take his mind off his apparent need; three, cross the line of fidelity. Most, if not all the time, options one and three are realistic byproducts of an intermittent "love life" with his wife and unresolved lust.

Until next time...

Walter Hunter
walter@menhavefeelingstoo.com
https://menhavefeelingstoo.com


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