The word Selah is a technical musical term that shows accentuation, interruption, pause, or suspension of music. In this life, we must also take the time to pause from the mundane tasks that we perform under the sun. As 2016 slowly comes to an end, let's make the time to regroup, revise, and project for 2017. This past year came with many ups and downs, triumphs and failures, and twists and turns. If you fail to objectively examine your pursuits, failures, and convictions from 2016, you will be at a great disadvantage in the coming new year. Listed below are a few things to consider.
What are your short and long-term goals for 2017?
How many goals did you set and accomplish in 2016?
If you set goals for yourself in 2016, why didn't you complete all of them? How long did you procrastinate before starting them?
What are your greatest weaknesses, distractions, and challenges? How do you plan to overcome them?
I encourage you to STOP making excuses. Take the rest of this year to reflect upon your life, convictions, and goals then make the necessary adjustments.
Until next time...
Walter Hunter
walter@menhavefeelingstoo.com
https://menhavefeelingstoo.com
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Men Have Feelings Too is a movement that is focused upon educating and equipping men to realize and address things about themselves that are often ignored.
Wednesday, December 28, 2016
Thursday, December 22, 2016
Men Have Feelings Too - Public Superheros Private Failures
This morning I began a conversation with a man by asking him the following. "What is the greatest challenge in your marriage?" He responded, "Trying to keep proper balance in my home." I then asked, "What do you mean?" He went on to say, "Trying to keep the proper balance between work and home. I spent many years serving this country as a U.S. Marine. Among my guys, I was well respected. They had my back and I had theirs. It was nothing to constantly devote 14 hours of my day leading them, training them, and looking after their personal needs. However, when I went home after my long day, my family didn't receive the same enthusiasm. They only got what I had left...if that. If they had a roof over their heads, food to eat, clothes to wear, and they were in 'good' health then my home life was considered good." As this conversation continued, he further explained how his military lifestyle and deployments strained his marriage and adversely affected his relationship with his children. After many unproductive arguments with his wife, repeated threats of divorce, and various disrespectful encounters with his children, he finally came to grips with this very stressful social imbalance.
Many people, especially men, simultaneously live as public superheros and private failures. To the outside world, they are great men, leaders, and the movers and shakers of our society. Privately or within their homes, they are null and void, absent, distant, and unapproachable. Most of their home life is spent arguing with their wives, fighting against their wayward, undisciplined children, and consuming drugs and alcohol in a desperate effort to escape these pressures. To further cope with the social imbalances within their households, many have found justification outside: like in the strip clubs, other social organizations where acceptance is the primary affirmation, or within the bed of "another" who willingly consoles them. Inwardly they know their condition is terminal but as long as they can keep their private life private, they'll continue to fool the masses by deceitfully pretending everything is great at home. Just because many of us live our lives this way, doesn't mean that it's right.
Until next time...
Walter Hunter
walter@menhavefeelingstoo.com
https://menhavefeelingstoo.com
Feel free to leave comments or feedback.
Many people, especially men, simultaneously live as public superheros and private failures. To the outside world, they are great men, leaders, and the movers and shakers of our society. Privately or within their homes, they are null and void, absent, distant, and unapproachable. Most of their home life is spent arguing with their wives, fighting against their wayward, undisciplined children, and consuming drugs and alcohol in a desperate effort to escape these pressures. To further cope with the social imbalances within their households, many have found justification outside: like in the strip clubs, other social organizations where acceptance is the primary affirmation, or within the bed of "another" who willingly consoles them. Inwardly they know their condition is terminal but as long as they can keep their private life private, they'll continue to fool the masses by deceitfully pretending everything is great at home. Just because many of us live our lives this way, doesn't mean that it's right.
Until next time...
Walter Hunter
walter@menhavefeelingstoo.com
https://menhavefeelingstoo.com
Feel free to leave comments or feedback.
Wednesday, December 14, 2016
Men Have Feelings Too - Why Do Married Men Cheat?
Why married men cheat, better yet, why men cheat has been a hot topic for eons. Many have struggled to understand this epidemic, yet attempting to explain it has always produced more questions than answers. One major reason for this phenomenon is most of those explanations have come from a bias source. In other words, men are not typically the forerunners when it comes to disclosing their wrongful deeds. Generally, it's women who have derived their unreliable reasoning from their own personal experiences. This alone has caused more confusion because it's based upon a woman's perception not reliable truth. Now, here's the twist. This time this information will be brought to you from a man's perspective.
So, why do married men cheat? Well, some of those reasons may surprise you. Starting in 2017, Men Have Feelings Too will be uncovering one reason per month. Although, this sensitive topic will produce mixed feelings, we must stop skating around the issue and deal with it. For the women, this information will be like a drug but for the men, most would rather I not speak. Having said that, let me lay some necessary groundwork.
First, ALL married men don't cheat? Secondly, the reason why this blog is only addressing the married men instead of the single ones is because pop culture expects the single ones to cheat. In other words, the institution of marriage is still respected to a slight degree. Third, married men have much more to lose than the single ones. Finally, if or when the institution of marriage is destroyed, society as a whole will crumble.
Until next time...
Walter Hunter
walter@menhavefeelingstoo.com
https://menhavefeelingstoo.com
Feel free to leave comments or feedback.
So, why do married men cheat? Well, some of those reasons may surprise you. Starting in 2017, Men Have Feelings Too will be uncovering one reason per month. Although, this sensitive topic will produce mixed feelings, we must stop skating around the issue and deal with it. For the women, this information will be like a drug but for the men, most would rather I not speak. Having said that, let me lay some necessary groundwork.
First, ALL married men don't cheat? Secondly, the reason why this blog is only addressing the married men instead of the single ones is because pop culture expects the single ones to cheat. In other words, the institution of marriage is still respected to a slight degree. Third, married men have much more to lose than the single ones. Finally, if or when the institution of marriage is destroyed, society as a whole will crumble.
Until next time...
Walter Hunter
walter@menhavefeelingstoo.com
https://menhavefeelingstoo.com
Feel free to leave comments or feedback.
Wednesday, December 7, 2016
Men Have Feelings Too - Five Categories of Fathers
Many people believe that all fathers are created equal. Well this misconception couldn't be farther from the truth. In fact, fatherhood at large is subdivided into five categories. Allow me to break this down for you.
Absent Father - An "absent" father should be self-explanatory. This type is non-existent or if there's any interactions with his children, it's extremely limited.
In The House but Not of The House Father - A father who is "in the house but not of the house" is one who physically resides with his own children, but he's routinely standoffish and detached when it comes to spending time with, nurturing, cultivating, and training them.
Distant Father - A "distant" father is one who doesn't physically reside with his own children, but he makes every attempt to be a part of their lives.
Surrogate Father - A "surrogate or stepfather" is one who assumes the role of father for children that aren't biologically his.
In The House and of The House Father - A father who is "in the house and of the house" is exactly how it sounds. This type physically lives in the same residence with his children, and he's involved in every aspect of their lives.
Until next time...
Walter Hunter
walter@menhavefeelingstoo.com
https://menhavefeelingstoo.com
Feel free to leave comments or feedback.
Absent Father - An "absent" father should be self-explanatory. This type is non-existent or if there's any interactions with his children, it's extremely limited.
In The House but Not of The House Father - A father who is "in the house but not of the house" is one who physically resides with his own children, but he's routinely standoffish and detached when it comes to spending time with, nurturing, cultivating, and training them.
Distant Father - A "distant" father is one who doesn't physically reside with his own children, but he makes every attempt to be a part of their lives.
Surrogate Father - A "surrogate or stepfather" is one who assumes the role of father for children that aren't biologically his.
In The House and of The House Father - A father who is "in the house and of the house" is exactly how it sounds. This type physically lives in the same residence with his children, and he's involved in every aspect of their lives.
Why is this fundamental understanding necessary? First, if you
desire to be an excellent father this information is mandatory. Secondly, there
are many pitfalls associated with each of these categories that must be
considered and understood. Just having this essential understanding will not
only aid you in your current fatherly role but it will also reveal distinctive tendencies,
weaknesses, and strengths that I know you’ve never contemplated. If you choose
to remain ignorant to these distinguishing factors, THEY will
plague YOU. Later, we'll dig deeper into these categories, but for now, my goal
was to stretch your mind by introducing them to you. If you can't
wait until we discuss them individually, you can obtain this priceless, sought after knowledge NOW on my website.
Until next time...
Walter Hunter
walter@menhavefeelingstoo.com
https://menhavefeelingstoo.com
Feel free to leave comments or feedback.
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